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Feeling fear? Just say no. Have courage instead.

October 31, 2018 By Miriam McKenney 1 Comment

Glenwood Gardens sunset run September 2018

When Kaia left for college two months ago, we knew we were in for a huge adjustment. Even though it’s the second time for us to experience a child leaving home, we’re feeling this loss differently than when our oldest left. Two months later, the gaping hole she left behind finally feels a little smaller. Just a little.

Loss continues to show up in my life in different ways: my mother-in-law’s death in May, Kaia’s leaving for college in August, ending Daily Devo in September. Ida’s death brought back all of the memories of my mom’s death seventeen years ago, and my friend Joy’s death last summer. Kaia’s departure simultaneously marked the end of her childhood. I’m mourning this very deeply. Daily Devo was a part of my life every day for the last three years. Not having it to work on made me unexpectedly sad.

We’re also experiencing loss on a societal level. I feel a loss of trust, a loss of mutual respect, and a loss of basic decency. Fear permeates our busy days and our sleepless nights. I’m having conversations in my family I couldn’t have imagined I would need to have. Preparing my daughters to live as young adults in this country is the hardest work I’ve ever done. It’s all so exhausting.

When I run out of words, I pray – often aloud – and words find me again. When talking to my girls about cold, harsh realities, we pray together. Talking to God and listening to God as a family following the Way of Love helped me create even more time for personal prayer. Recently, during a time of prayer and meditation, I realized: I don’t mind my kids watching me struggle with depression. I do mind them watching me struggle with fear.

God tells us over 300 times in scripture not to be afraid. Courage lives in all of us and waits for us to realize it’s there. God said to do it, so I grabbed hold of a massive dose of courage and claim it like it’s always been mine. My conversations with God continue to bless me with increased awareness of my power as God’s child following Jesus led by the Spirit.

Courage is contagious. Showing the little I’ve found helps the girls see themselves as courageous people. We had the courage to drive to NYC to see our favorite band in concert a few weeks ago. I have the courage to get outside most days and engage in God’s creation. Each courageous act makes way for the next one. Fear can’t survive when you invite courage in. God doesn’t want us to live in fear.

Our children will use us as their mirrors whether we want them to or not. I need the reflection to be someone they want to see and be. With God’s help, I’m creating an image that even I can begin to be happy viewing.

I’ve commanded you to be brave and strong, haven’t I? Don’t be alarmed or terrified, because the Lord your God is with you wherever you go. Joshua 1:9 CEB


How is God revealing your courageous side to you? How can you show your courage to your family?

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Filed Under: Parenting, Prayer, Way of Love Tagged With: Bible, courage, fear, God, Jesus, loss, pray, Prayer, Spirit, teenagers, teens

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About Miriam McKenney

Miriam Willard McKenney is a child of God who finds extreme joy parenting her three girls: Nia, 26; Kaia, 21; and Jaiya, 18. She and her husband, David, met at the Union of Black Episcopalians conference in 1981. Miriam works as Forward Movement’s Development Director and at Calvary Episcopal Church in Cincinnati as Youth Director. She was a children’s librarian and school media specialist for 20 years before joining Forward Movement’s staff. She loves outdoor fitness in extreme temperatures, as there is no bad weather, just incorrect clothing choices.

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  1. Barb says

    October 31, 2018 at 8:56 am

    Thanks for sharing – always enjoy your openness with your writing. The “Do not fear” thing has been on my heart for awhile!

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