Title: Experiments in Minivan Christian Formation, based on a true story
Scene: Gas station. Dad pumping gas. Mom and three boys (ages nine, eleven, and fourteen years old) waiting in the car.
Mom (looking into the back of the van): Hey guys! Let me tell you something!
Boys (looking up from their books with an expression of interest): What?
Mom: It’s a story. About a saint.
Boys (with varying tones indicating lack of enthusiasm): Um, okay.
Mom: So, this is a short story. About Saint Laurence. Have you ever heard of Saint Laurence?
Eleven: No. (Other boys shake heads no)
Mom: Okay. So, Saint Laurence was a deacon, and he worked with the pope, way back in 258. The Christians were being persecuted then. It was illegal to be a Christian. The emperor was rounding up all the Christians and killing them and taking all the money that the church had. The emperor killed the pope and the other deacons, but he didn’t get Laurence yet. Then he told Laurence that he had to gather up all the treasures of the church, and give it to the emperor.
Laurence told the emperor that it would take him three days to gather all the treasure. So, during those three days, Laurence went around Rome and gave all the church’s money to the poor people, the people who depended on the church to help them get food and pay for a place to sleep. Then at the end of the three days, Laurence went to meet the emperor. And he brought the poor people with him to the emperor, and he said to the emperor, ‘These are the treasures of the church.’
Nine: Psych! Burn! Burn the emperor! (other boys laugh)
Mom: Exactly! And what do you think the emperor did?
Eleven: He killed Laurence!
Mom: Yes, he did. And you know how he killed him?
Mom: He made a big fire, and he put Laurence on a grill over the fire, and he burned him to death.
Mom: Exactly. But you know what Laurence did?
Mom: After he had been on the grill for awhile, he looked at the soldiers and said, ‘Turn me over, I’m done on this side!’
Fourteen (rolls eyes)
Mom: So, what do you think?
Fourteen: Typical saint. Did something good, got killed. (goes back to book)
Mom: So, what do you think you might do to remember Saint Laurence?
Nine: Um, I don’t know—maybe give stuff to poor people?
Mom: Sure, that could be good.
Dad (getting into the car): What are you talking about?
Mom: Saint Laurence.
Dad: Oh, is he the one who got shot full of arrows?
Eleven: No—he got burned on a grill!
This was an experiment I conducted to discover a) if I could get the boys to listen to a short story about a saint, and b) how the three would react differently, given their different ages. Sometimes, having three boys with an age range of five years leads me to believe that I would need to have time with each one separately in order to have any conversation about a story like this. Of course, separate one-on-one time is so rare that it is almost nonexistent!
The outcome of the experiment was encouraging: all three boys did listen to the story (it helped that it was fairly short, and that we were stuck in the car together). They each reacted differently: fourteen with at least one eyeroll and a bored affect, eleven into the grossout aspect of the story, nine a little more earnest, cheering when the poor people are presented as the treasure, and recognizing that giving “stuff to poor people” would be one way of honoring the saint.
How do you share stories of the saints across age ranges?
Melissa Parkhurst says
Thank you, Betsey! Way to seize the moment.
As a mother of an 8yo, and currently on a road trip, I am inspired. 👍 It’s true; we seldom get the time alone for dedicated conversation. And what a great story to captivate (potentially) that age range.
Betsey Monnot says
Hi Melissa! Good luck with your road trip and taking the opportunity. I would love to learn how it goes for you!